Friends

Sometimes i wonder,
Are friends really friends?
How do u know if friends are really friends?
How do we know they're not?
Sometimes i wonder.

Is it the constant meetings?
Is it the countless hours over the phones?
Is it the crazy stuff done together?
Is it just being there when needed?
Is it just a title?
Is it mutual?
Is it just the occasional 'hi' and 'bye'?

Do we only know a friend in times of distress?
Do friends expect a certain behaviour of you?
Are we expected to have an expectation on them?
Do friends interests have to match ours?
If friends don't meet after a long while do they become less of a friend?

I thought of this a long time back, when i saw a close friend of mine whom i had not seen or spoken to for a long time. to my greeting i recieved a hostile reply... and i was quite disappointed...

But then i reflected on it, as much as you treat one as your friend, the friend should treat you as one too. However as much as it is fair to be reciprocrated of a friendship, i also believe that we should do to others what we want others to do unto us.

Having said all of that. I love my friends for all they are. the nice ones, and the not so nice ones. I just love them.